How to Give Your Partner a Sexy Lapdance

Prepare to turn up the heat and inject a dose of playful sensuality into your relationship! Channel your inner Dita Von Teese – OR Magic Mike! – with sassy moves and playful grooves will have both of you revelling in the delight of a dancefloor for two. Whether you're looking to surprise your partner or add a new layer of intimacy to your connection, read on for our guide to giving your lover a sexy lapdance.

1. Set the Scene

There’s nothing sexy about grinding in front of a pile of dirty laundry, so before you even get started, take a few minutes to set the stage for your lap dance extravaganza. Ceate an alluring ambiance by dimming the lights, lighting some candles, and pressing play on a sultry playlist that complements the mood. A well-crafted atmosphere sets the tone for a memorable performance!

2. Dress the Part

Embodying the burlesque star (or Chippendale) within by dressing the part. Whether it's lacy lingerie, a fireman’s uniform, a silky robe, or a touch of leather, choose an outfit that enhances your allure and makes you feel empowered and irresistibly confident. If you plan on making your performance a striptease, choose items of clothing that can be removed easily so you don’t have to interrupt the flow of the moment… or risk falling over your trousers.

3. Pick the Right Music

It’s not impossible to give a lapdance while Nickelback plays in the background – but why make things any harder than they need to be?! Choose music with a rhythm that resonates with your style and your partner's taste. From slow and sensual to upbeat and playful, let the music guide your movements and create an irresistible vibe. Consider classic tunes with a seductive beat or modern tracks that set the mood.

4. Play with Props

Incorporate playful props to add an extra layer of excitement. A feather boa, a chair, a set of handcuffs or even a strategically placed silk scarf can enhance the allure of your performance. Use props creatively to tease and tantalise. 

5. Eye Contact is Everything

Maintain eye contact with your partner throughout the dance. Locking eyes intensifies the connection and adds a layer of intimacy to your performance. Let your gaze communicate desire, confidence, and the playful spirit of the moment.

6. Master the Tease

The art of the lap dance lies in the tease. Playfully approach your partner, but keep a tantalising distance. Move your body seductively, letting your partner anticipate the electrifying touch that's just out of reach. The tease is the heartbeat of a memorable lap dance.

7. Use Your Hands

Explore the power of touch with graceful hand movements. Run your hands along your body, through your hair, and down the clothing you wear as you remove each layer. The tactile element adds a sensory dimension to your performance.

8. Experiment with Movement

Experiment with different movements and styles. From slow, sensuous sways to more energetic bursts of enthusiasm, let your body express the playful and alluring sides of your personality. Your movements should reflect your comfort and confidence.

9. Involve Your Partner

Don't be afraid to involve your partner in the dance. Encourage them to sit back, relax, and enjoy the show. Playfully guide their hands along your body or engage in a brief exchange that heightens the connection. Remember, it's a dance for two!

10. Enjoy Where It Leads…

After your electrifying performance, relish in the afterglow. Whether it leads to a passionate moment between the sheets or a shared laugh about the delightful surprise, the real magic of a lap dance lies in the connection and joy it brings to both partners.

BONUS: Check out Sinful’s Top 100 Songs for Seduction and then Create the Perfect Sexy-Time Playlist!