Mastering the Art of Multiple Orgasms

Many of us are happy with one trip to O-Town… but going there two, three or four times in an evening? Where do we sign up?!

For those who have not had the pleasure of experiencing them before now, let us assure you: the multiple orgasm is NOT an urban legend. And it’s not something that exists only in porn (where the actresses are often only faking, anyway). Multiple orgasms are REAL – and many sexperts believe you can train yourself to have them. 

Here’s everything you need to know about multi-O indulgence…

What are Multiple Orgasms, Actually?

They are what you think they are: more than one orgasm in a single session. They might be spaced out over an hour or two, or they might occur in quick succession. Some people with vulvas experience multiple orgasms as ongoing rolling orgasms versus distinct individual orgasms, and some people with penises can even achieve multiple orgasms!

Seriously – can Men & Women BOTH Have Multiple Orgasms?

YUP! While it tends to be a bit trickier for the penis-owning population (thanks to that pesky refractory period that happens after ejaculation), it IS possible for men to orgasm multiple times in a row through non-ejaculatory multiple orgasm and prostate orgasms.

How to Have Multiple Orgasms

Keen to get to the good stuff and learn HOW to have multiple toe-curlers in one session? We get it! Let’s dive in with our top tips to help you enjoy multiple orgasms solo, or with a partner.

Let Go of Performance Pressure

It sounds counter-intuitive, but this first tip is perhaps the most important. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself! Having multiple orgasms isn’t something you should be setting out to ‘achieve’. It’s something you’re exploring as a way means of increasing pleasure. Don’t get hung up on counting your orgasms, because you’ll end up distracted and frustrated – and those two mindsets are like orgasm kryptonite. Instead, let yourself lean into…

Relaxation and Arousal

When it comes to multiple orgasms, arousal is the name of the game. Duh! Being super turned on is key, so start by focusing on relaxation and letting go of the stresses of the day. For you, that might look like taking a warm bath, enjoying a massage from your partner, or simply laying on your bed and meditating. Once you’re fully relaxed, move into increasing arousal – and, rather than jumping right to your go-to turn-on method, consider mixing things up by listening to some audio erotica, or watching some really good porn, or following along with a guided orgasmic breathing exercise. The hotter you are before you get started, the better your chances of reaching multiple orgasms. Take your time!

Embrace Your Pleasure Playground Solo

Your partner might be excited to help you reach multiple orgasms, but studies show solo self-exploration is best when you’re first starting out. After all – no-one knows your body, and what gets you off, quite like you do! Take some time to embrace your own pleasure playground, get to know your body intimately, explore what excites you, and playfully map the zones that ignite your desires. Experiment with different techniques and rhythms during solo play to discover the nuances of your pleasure. Understanding your unique landscape sets the stage for a symphony of sensations. This really is a matter of, YOU come first.

Mindful Breathing is Your Multi-Orgasmic Wingman

Mindful breathing is the ultimate wingman on your journey to multiple orgasms. Deep, deliberate breaths can enhance the intensity of each climax and pave the way for the next, so sync your breath with your arousal; allowing the rhythm to build and heighten your pleasure.

Elevate Foreplay/ Mix-and-Match Stimulation

Variety is the spice of life – and it’s also an important key in unlocking your second, third and fourth orgasm. Building arousal gradually can lead to more intense and pleasurable peaks, so extend the amount of time you’d normally spend on foreplay, and incorporate a variety of sensations, touches, and playful caresses. A mix and match approach to stimulation can also be a game-changer, so consider combining (or moving between) clitoral, G-spot, and even anal play to create a symphony of sensations. Each unique touch contributes to the crescendo of pleasure.

Invest in Quality Lube

There’s no overstating the importance of good lube for great sex, so invest invest in high-quality lubrication to ensure a friction-free experience. Lubrication adds a luxurious touch to your play and enhances the pleasure of each climax. Warming and arousal-increasing lubes can be a great option if you’re keen to try something new!

Take a Break if You Need One

Powering through is not the approach when you’re exploring the possibilities of multiple orgasms, so listen to your body! It’s perfectly normal to need to pause in between orgasms, and this brief stop can allow your body to rest and reset without losing arousal. If you're working toward your second or third orgasm of the night and you find your pleasure building but you can’t quite get there, take a break for a minute or two. Grab a glass of water, change positions, or stimulate another part of your body.

What if Nothing Happens?

If you don’t experience a second orgasm during your sexploits, that’s okay! Remember, the point isn’t to tally up as many orgasms as possible: the point is PLEASURE. Experimenting with new techniques and approaches can be fun, but don’t let a quest get in the way of a great time. At the end of the night, it's not about the number of orgasms you have, it's about getting the most pleasure out of your experience. And there’s always next time! 

Practice Makes Perfect

Sexperts suggest that – just like any other muscle in your body – the pelvic floor (which is responsible for orgasms) is also trainable. It has the capacity for muscle memory – which means that, once you’ve had your first experience of multiple orgasms, your body learns from that. Like anything, the more you practice, the easier – and better! – it will get. Just take the time to figure out what works for you, and you’ll be experiencing multiple orgasms time and time AND TIME AGAIN.

You’re welcome.