Ask a Sexpert: How Can I Last Longer in Bed?

Want to increase your sexual stamina and last longer in the sack? This month in Ask a Sexpert, we’re looking at tried and true methods to help you go the distance, and ensure your partner has a climatic finish before you blurt your squirt!

Libido Support Supplements

There are tons of great libido and erection support supplements available, and while many are formulated to deliver bigger and firmer boners, we have a couple of top pics for those that can help you last longer in bed!

If you’re looking for long-term results, Herbal Bona is a great supplement option that helps support libido and stamina, naturally. It’s made from all natural ingredients – including Horny Goat Weed Extract, Ginseng and Ginkgo – and has been scientifically developed to support men’s sexual performance, libido, stamina and erectile function. Just take two capsules daily to naturally support your stamina whenever the mood strikes.

If you’re having trouble maintaining your erection, and you want a powerful supplement that works when you need it, Solid Erex is a great choice. These are New Zealand’s most popular erection pills available without a prescription (which is why they rank in our trending sex toys and supplements lists each and every month!) and they don’t result in headaches or side-effects like other erection pills. 

Endurance Trainers 

Also known as fleshlights, eggs, sleeves, pocket pussies and strokers, personal endurance trainers for men are masturbatory aids that can help you build up sexual endurance and last longer during sex. They’re like a workout for your schlong. Using a stamina trainer helps you build up endurance, little by little, to get near the edge and stay there longer. The goal is last longer and longer during training, so that – when you’re with the real deal – you’ll be able to hold off blowing your load for a much longer period of time.

Sinful Adult Mega Store has a huge range of personal trainers for men available to choose from, but if you’re looking for the crème de la crème, you can’t go wrong with the Satisfyer Mens Classic, in silver. This is an elegant masturbator for stimulating the entire penis, and features a realistic-feel cyberskin internal sleeve and pressure-control suction to help enhance the experience.

Want to get started with a more affordable option? Check out our Male Masturbator With Mouth & Vagina, or our Double Holes Life-Like Masturbator, which features both anal and vagina openings. These are currently available in our Bottom Drawer sale section at 40% off the RRP.

Delay Sprays

Is premature ejaculation and over-sensitivity an issue for you in bed? If you want to prolong your sexcapades, why not try a delay spray or intimate gel that’s scientifically formulated to help you last longer in bed? Eros Delay 100 Percent Power Concentrate has been developed to delay the climax without loss of sensation, and comes in a practical pump dispenser. Alternatively, Shots Media Dark Horse Delay Spray has been formulated to deal effectively with premature ejaculation and takes just 10 – 15 minutes to take effect. Both of these have 5-star user reviews and are designed for easy use.


Also known as surfing, peaking, teasing and more, edging is the practice of stopping yourself from reaching orgasm right when you’re on the cusp — and an increasing number of fellas are employing the method to help them last longer in bed. Basically, if you feel yourself getting close to the finish line, stop what you’re doing and let yourself cool down a little before getting back in the game. If you’re with a partner, that might mean stopping sex and going down on them for a few minutes, to get them closer to the edge as you back off.

One edging technique that’s proven to help people with premature ejaculation is called ballooning, and it’s a great form of solo endurance training that you can combine with a personal trainer or endurance sleeve for maximum results. Here’s how you do it:

  1. Find an area on your penis that’s especially sensitive. Don’t touch any other area on your penis — just that one area.
  2. Gently move your finger around that area in a circle.
  3. Keep rubbing the area until you’re fully hard, and keep it up until you feel like you’re about to come.
  4. Stop touching your penis right before you orgasm.
  5. Let yourself get a little soft, then rub that area again until you’re close to orgasm.

Repeat steps 1 – 5 for as many times as you like to help you train yourself to pull back on your orgasm and increase your sexual stamina.