Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve heard of a bucket list. Usually, it’s comprised of all the things you’d like to do before you ‘kick the bucket’ like visiting Morocco, or going skydiving. A ‘life’ bucket list is a great idea… but what about making a bucket list for your sex life?
What is a Sex Bucket List?
A juicy, R-rated bucket list is basically part game, and part statement of intent – and it can spice up your sex life, no matter what your prior level of experience is.
Whether you're kinky, vanilla, or somewhere in between, identifying new things you want to try in (or outside of) the bedroom – and then challenging yourself to make them happen – can save you and your partner/s from getting trapped in a sex rut.
If you're single, it's a fun way to keep yourself entertained. There’s no rule against making a solo sex bucket list, and many R-rated ideas can be modified for one! A sex bucket list is also a great way to provide inspiration for safe and fun hookup escapades.
If you’re in a relationship, a sex bucket list can act as your muse for all the adventurous things you’d like to do in bed. It can also be a slip-and-slide back into the pools of sexual creativity when you’ve fallen into a dry spell.
Why Create a Sex Bucket List?
Most of the time, life is about routine. We get up, hit the gym, go to work, eat dinner, watch tv, have sex (if we’re lucky), go to sleep and repeat. The daily ebb and flow isn’t necessarily a bad thing (and without some routine our lives would be too chaotic to function)… but it’s this routine that leads many people to fall into habits and patterns that can make sex – for lack of a better word – boring.
No-one wants a boring sex life. And, possibly even more importantly: spicing up your sex life helps keep your life and relationships fresh and exciting! That’s why a sexual bucket list can be a fun and handy tool: to remind you that sex can – and SHOULD – be fun, and to encourage individuals, couples (and the odd throuple) to keep growing and exploring their sexuality in new and exciting ways.
How to Write Your Own Sex Bucket List
Want to add some variety to your solo sexcapades, or reignite your once-crackling chemistry with your lover? Simply putting pen to paper (or compiling a naughty note on your phone) can help get your engine going, or strengthen the bon with your partner.
So, what should you add to your sexual bucket list? And how do you even get started?
The purpose of a sex bucket list is to take a fearless inventory of your total sexual self, which means pulling inspiration from everywhere. It also means opening up communication with your partner or playmate about what turns you on and gets you off!
To get the ball rolling, think about the things you fantasise about, the things you search when looking at porn, and your favourite past sexual experiences. Think about the scene in that movie that got you all hot and bothered, or the naughty article you ripped out of a magazine and read over and over again.
We know the options might seem endless, so we’ve pulled together a bunch of ideas in our Ultimate Sex Bucket List to give you a nudge in the right direction. Print it out, bookmark it online, copy and paste it into a note on your phone, then scrub out the HELL Nos and highlight the HELL YESes! Be sure to add your own ideas as inspiration strikes and then…
(Now here’s the fun part!)
…Get to work ticking things off your list!